My friend was upset and I asked her why. Where upon she told me how a common friend had hurt her. But isn’t that common. Each and every person hurts us at one or the other time. Needless to say, we too have been the offenders many a times. It is not that we deliberately try to hurt anyone but it is just that our perceptions are different. The way we act to situations or think in situations may be unlike others. In the process we may hurt others. And it is just possible that others may not understand others or others understand us. And this happens in all relationships and not just friendships.
Aren’t their times when you feel that your spouse is the greatest boon that you have received in life and the very next moment you may feel like throttling him.
Same with parents. Parents may have your best interest in mind but many times they may fail to understand you.
So what do we do? Be morose that this world is a dull place where no body understands anybody??
The trick is to be friendly with all and yet be aloof. because all friendships serve some means. Very few have genuine caring.
The only true friend is the Lord. He is one who will give you everything and yet not interfere in your life. He is the one who really UNDERSTANDS.
In the Bhagvad Gita Chapter 9 text 18 the Lord says
gatir bharta prabhuh saksi
nivasah saranam suhrt
prabhavah pralayah sthanam
nidhanam bijam avyayam
I am the goal, the sustainer, the master, the witness, the abode, the refuge and the most dear friend. I am the creation and the annihilation, the basis of everything, the resting place and the eternal seed.
So when the creator himself says that he is the best friend; what else one needs.
Srimad Bhagvatam says that a human has four defects:
- imperfect senses
- propensity to cheat
- commits mistakes and
- is illusioned
- So you see these defects are inherent in us. So how can we hope to be everlasting friends to others. When we ourselves are not perfect how can we be perfect friends.
Krishna on the other hand is perfect. None of the above defects exist in him and so he is dependable. But the issue is are we ready to depend on Him?
Today is Mokshada Ekadashi. ‘Moksha’ as most of us know means liberation. And this is one Ekadashi in which the benefits of the austerities if performed can be transferred. How? Read on Yudhisthira once asks Lord Krishna, ‘What is the name of the Ekadashi which falls in the light fortnight of Margashirsha?’ The Lord replies, The Ekadashi which falls in the light fortnight of Margashirsha is known as Mokshada. The performance of this Ekadashi purifies the faithful devotee of sinful reaction and bestows liberation upon him. The deity of this Ekadashi is Lord Damodara and he is to be worshipped with Ghee lamps, flowers and tulsi buds (manjaris)’. And then he proceeds to glorify: In the beautiful Kingdom of Champaka Nagara there ruled a wise and just king named Vaikhaanasa. His rule was just and so the people in his kingdom were happy and peaceful. But once he had a dream in which he saw his father suffering in the hellish planets and from then on, he suffered too. And then came a time in which he could not tolerate any more and he ran to the Brahmans in his kingdom and told them his plight. He told them ‘O learned Brahmanas, I saw a dream in which I saw my father suffering in the hellish planets. And now I suffer too. How can I live a good life when my father is suffering so’. The Brahmanas consulted amongst themselves and advised him to go to Parvat Munis ashram. The Muni being a trikaal gyani, one who knew the past, the present and the future would surely know what to do about the suffering of the king’s father. The wise King ran to the ashram of Parvat muni. There he saw the muni in counsel with the other sages. The king ran and fell down at the feet of the sage. The sage raised him and greeted him as if he was his own, made him comfortable and asked, how he could be of help to the king. The King told him of his dream. The sage heard him patiently, then closed his eyes in meditation. After some time he opened his eyes and told that yes, his father was indeed suffering in hell. It had so happened that the erstwhile King the father of the present king had tried to enjoy his wife when she was having her monthly flow. She had pleaded for mercy but he had ignored her pleas and for that sin of his, he was now suffering in hell. Vaikhaanasa was confused. The sin that his father had committed was great. Firstly he had tried to enjoy his wife at a time when it was forbidden, secondly he had tried to enjoy her against her will. But still he was his father. How could he live knowing that his father was suffering? So he turns towards Parvat Muni and says, “please advise how can I relieve and remove the burden of my father’s sinful reaction?’ And the muni advises him to keep the Mokshada ekadashi strictly and to give the merits of the ekadashi directly to his father who would them be elevated from the hellish to the heavenly planets. The King then returns to his kingdom and waits patiently for the Mokshada ekadashi. And when it arrives, he performs it strictly. On completion, he transfers all the merits to his father. His father is instantly transferred to the heavens where in he starts his devotional service in earnest. Today is also the day when Lord Krishna narrated the Bhagvad Gita. Gita means song and Bhagvad means The Lord. SO Bhagvad Gita essentially means the song of the Lord. When the Mahabharatha was about to start, Arjuna asked his charioteer; Lord Krishna to take him to the middle of the battlefield because he wants to have alook at both the sides. But when he looks at the other side he starts doubting whether there is really a need for the fight because the opposite side people too are his own; his Guru, his cousins, his grandfather, how could he fight them all. And then he lists five arguments as to not to fight. the five arguments are
- Compassion- how can he fight his own family
- Loss of enjoyment- maybe he will fight and win but how can he enjoy his kingdom after killing his own people
- Fear of sinful reaction- won’t he suffer from bad karma after killing??
- Destruction of family lineage
- Indecision- to fight or not to fight?
And so in this indecision, he accepts Krishna as his Guru and asks him to guide him.
karpanya-dosopahata-svabhavah prcchami tvam dharma-sammudha-cetah yac chreyah syan niscitam bruhi tan me sisyas te ‘ham sadhi mam tvam prapannam
Now I am confused about my duty and have lost all composure because of weakness. In this condition I am asking You to tell me clearly what is best for me. Now I am Your disciple, and a soul surrendered unto You. Please instruct me.
And so Krishna gives him the Absolute truth.
It is said that the entire Gita was spoken for just 45 minutes and whats more, Arjuna heard it, understood it and applied it in his life.
Brought in the New Year with the Lord this year, dressed up, danced, sang for the Lord and the ultimate was helping a little for making the garland for the Lord. And the result-unmatched bliss.
I have brought in a number of years with friends and family, sometimes dancing to the fast beats of music, sometimes droopy eyed-watching the clock slowly inch towards twelve, sometimes bogged down by the negativity of life wishing it to end.
But nothing compared to this year.
In the Bhagvad Gita 3.30 Krishna says surrender all your works onto me with full knowledge of me without any claims of proprietorship or profit.
When we do any work sincerely without any thought of what the outcome might be, putting in 100 % effort, whatever the result be; we will have only ‘ananda’ i.e. bliss/ satisfaction
But on the other hand when and whatever we do for the Lord, we get ‘Parmananda’- ultimate bliss.
When you sing for the Lord, when you dance for the Lord, when you do service for the Lord the happiness you derive out of this simple pleasures is immeasurable.
Why? Because that time the soul (our soul) connects to the super soul(Lord)
Try it sometime and you will understand.