My friend was upset and I asked her why. Where upon she told me how a common friend had hurt her. But isn’t that common. Each and every person hurts us at one or the other time. Needless to say, we too have been the offenders many a times. It is not that we deliberately try to hurt anyone but it is just that our perceptions are different. The way we act to situations or think in situations may be unlike others. In the process we may hurt others. And it is just possible that others may not understand others or others understand us. And this happens in all relationships and not just friendships.
Aren’t their times when you feel that your spouse is the greatest boon that you have received in life and the very next moment you may feel like throttling him.
Same with parents. Parents may have your best interest in mind but many times they may fail to understand you.
So what do we do? Be morose that this world is a dull place where no body understands anybody??
The trick is to be friendly with all and yet be aloof. because all friendships serve some means. Very few have genuine caring.
The only true friend is the Lord. He is one who will give you everything and yet not interfere in your life. He is the one who really UNDERSTANDS.
In the Bhagvad Gita Chapter 9 text 18 the Lord says
gatir bharta prabhuh saksi
nivasah saranam suhrt
prabhavah pralayah sthanam
nidhanam bijam avyayam
I am the goal, the sustainer, the master, the witness, the abode, the refuge and the most dear friend. I am the creation and the annihilation, the basis of everything, the resting place and the eternal seed.
So when the creator himself says that he is the best friend; what else one needs.
Srimad Bhagvatam says that a human has four defects:
- imperfect senses
- propensity to cheat
- commits mistakes and
- is illusioned
- So you see these defects are inherent in us. So how can we hope to be everlasting friends to others. When we ourselves are not perfect how can we be perfect friends.
Krishna on the other hand is perfect. None of the above defects exist in him and so he is dependable. But the issue is are we ready to depend on Him?