Very often we get flustered because we did not get what we wanted, for which we worked hard or what we think we deserved.
In many cases our past karma plays a very big role.
And in some-God’s will.
Remember when you were small and wanted a chocolate just before a meal and you were forbidden to eat some. You cried, you wailed, you threw a tantrum but still you did not get. Why? Because for you a meal was more important than a chocolate.
Similarly if you are lucky-God has other plans for you; something which you deserve and which is good for you. So you may aspire for a dream job or an increment but maybe you will not get as HE has some major plans for you.
You may say that here goes a loser. No. I speak from experience. I have gone after the proverbial name, fame, money too but nothing gave me peace. Untill I let life take its course and HE to guide me. And then I got peace and bliss. So was I an escapist. No. I was just accepting the path laid by HIM.