Suma and Kirti were the best of friends. They had sailed from kindergarten to primary to middle and then high school. Suma was always better in studies and dramatics. While Kirti was an average ‘all-rounder’ if you may say so. But each would help the other in all the activities; studies or otherwise.
Sometime in Grade 9, Kirti got all A1’s in all subjects. As it was surprising everyone lauded her except for Suma, she could not digest it that how a person whom she taught could fare better than her. And then while Kirti worked hard and won accolades in studies and sports, Suma got jealous and more jealous and eventually she started losing her grades AND her peace of mind.
At every opportunity, Suma saw to it that she reminded Kirti how she was nothing and it was she who had groomed her. Kirti did not understand why Suma had changed and why she was being so angry and abusive on her.
The final straw was when they were cycling to school, Suma deliberately came on Kirti’s side and Kirti fell on to the thorny grass shrubs bordering the edges of the road. Though there was not much damage to the cycle or to Kirti, the internal damaged were more. The thorns grazed her here and there, and her skirt was torn but what was damaged was the trust and love between the friends which could never be repaired.
Isn’t there a Suma in each of our lives. You may wonder how a mentor can become so jealous. Can a teacher be jealous of a student, a mother of a child? Yes it can be. It is possible. Didn’t Ashoka kill his own brothers? Didn’t a well-known singer apparently see to it that her sister didn’t shine. There are numerous examples.
The Bhagvad gita says
dvaram nasanam atmanah
kamah krodhas tatha lobhas
tasmad etat trayam tyajet
There are three gates leading to this hell–lust, anger and greed. Every sane man should give these up, for they lead to the degradation of the soul.(Bhagvad Gita 16.21)
Everyone tries to satisfy their lust and if they cannot then there is anger and greed. Now let us not go by the crude meaning of lust. Lust can mean an overwhelming desire for power, success, knowledge etc. But how does this lust arise.
How does a child derive happiness. By being with her parent. Remember how when we were small doing petty errands for our parents would fill us with joy. But then we grew up, started earning got married got stuck in the rigmarole of life and so on and then never felt the same joy as we felt when we did doing those petty errands.
Same is the position of jiva . The jiva was happy serving the parmatama but then it got a little selfish and wanted to enjoy on its own. So Parmatama created the material world for or enjoyment. But as soon as the Jiva came into this material world it forgot his love for the Parmatama. That love was converted to lust with the aid of the senses. Bhagvad Gita 2.62 and 2.63 says:
dhyayato visayan pumsah
sangat sanjayate kamah
kamat krodho ‘bhijayate
While contemplating the objects of the senses, a person develops attachment for them, and from such attachment lust develops, and from lust anger arises.
krodhad bhavati sammohah
From anger, delusion arises, and from delusion bewilderment of memory. When memory is bewildered, intelligence is lost, and when intelligence is lost, one falls down again into the material pool.
So from lust anger arises. Anger makes us forget the realities of life and takes us away from our maker.
So the real culprit is our senses. The eyes make us see what we should not, ears make us hear which should not be heard, we speak hurtful words, we eat that which is not to be eaten and all this culminates into lust. Lust for power, for possessions. But how to control senses? That has already been discussed at Yatra earlier. (Check here)